It’s only natural that each of us wants to avoid pain and suffering or relationships that are toxic for us. But no matter what we believe about hardship, you know what they say: suffering helps us grow as individuals.
That’s also the case with suffering in romantic relationships. When things don’t work out, maybe it’s time for us to shift our perspective and challenge ourselves. Maybe we need some time alone to figure out what went wrong and what we life lesson we can learn from the experience.
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Once you grow out of the mindset that is all about blaming and anger and grief, you can look at things more objectively. You realize that if something so amazing ended in your life, it means it wasn’t meant to last in the first place.
Learn to appreciate how wonderful it was while it lasted and accept that nothing lasts forever.
When you start seeing things in a more positive light, you will begin to understand that sometimes heartache helps us and it happens for a reason.
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You realize you are much stronger than you thought you were.
You finally see that at the end of that big bad tunnel there are opportunities for personal growth.
You have a chance to set new goals and work on improving yourself professionally and personally.
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You know exactly what you’re looking for in a relationship now but also what you’re not.
This is very important because being heartbroken will set the path for new and more fulfilling relationships in the future.
And above all else, you become wiser.
And again, this will prove to be of great help next time you’ll go through hardship.
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