Most people believe my single life demands sympathy and consideration. Since being alone in this world is in no way a testimony of strength or empowerment but more of a lousy or dreadful thing. As if we must be either introverts or frustrated, secretive, lame, or just bad people. There has to be something wrong with you. No one embraces solitude willingly, right?
Take a look at 10 wonderful things that happened once I embraced solitude:
1. I got to recharge
Socialising and connecting with other human beings discharge us. Some people even have the power to drain us of our energy completely. Spending time alone gave me the chance to take a break from others and just recharge. It can be mentally exhausting to be in constant contact with people, you must be present and focused, engage in conversations, read their emotions or make them laugh.
2. Had time to reflect
Being by myself gave me the opportunity to reflect on life. It’s so important to make time only to think in silence. Close your eyes and turn your thoughts towards yourself, focus inward. We all should find time to meditate every day, if only for a few minutes.
3. Got to know myself better
Being surrounded by people can deprive you of knowing your own emotions. You can get lost in other people’s stories, you fulfill their emotional needs at the cost of forgetting your own. As soon as you spend some quality time with yourself, you’ll change your perspective. You will understand better what makes you happy or sad and what you need to be fulfilled in life. At least it worked for me.
4. I chose the activities for a change
Being a part of a group oftentimes means to compromise on the activities you’d like to do. I finally got the chance to do exactly the things I’ve always wanted to do, though some of them required company.
5. Got more things done
Time alone means focusing on the things that really interest you and gives you the opportunity to work on those personal projects kept in the drawer until now. I quickly realized I was far more productive when engrossed in my own thing. Fewer distractions, more work done.
6. Became more independent
I came to enjoy spending time alone once I reaped all the awards above. I gained confidence in my ability to be alone which naturally made me more independent, free from anxieties or desire for company.
7. Satisfying relationships
Time with myself made me appreciate others more. I definitely found outings with your friends more enjoyable.
8. No apologies
Embracing solitude means you don’t have to give any explanations or apologies. Less pressure altogether, time to be yourself with no filters.
9. My happiness to the fore
Now your happiness is at the forefront, you are free to do exactly the things that make you happy, take care of yourself as you know best. I found it really tiring to try to keep people happy all the time.
10. No need for validation
Being by yourself not only gives you more confidence but also tenacity in making your own decisions. You come out ahead trusting your instincts, without the help of others and without any advice. Plus you don’t need others to be cool with whatever you’re doing, you’re an independent individual who makes their own decision, doesn’t care what other people think or needs approval.
Only amazing things start when you embrace being alone, share this post!