We all love new beginnings. Whether they’re about love and romance, work or just meeting new people, beginnings are all about the hope of a new day. When it comes to relationships, we never know what they’ll bring to us in the future, a lot of joy or a lot of suffering and sorrow.
Most of the times, it’s a combination of pain and happiness. I cannot think of one relationship that hasn’t known struggle.
So we value deeply our beginnings, those times when we start dating someone new, when the euphoria begins. But that is only the tip of a love iceberg.
This might surprise you, but the butterflies phase is not exactly where a great long-lasting relationship begins.
Every relationship that is sure to last starts from a place of conflict and will only grow from there.
If you think about all the people you are close to in your life, you will realize that there has also been some conflict and pain involved.
You cannot hope to build something wonderful and unique with someone without opening yourself up to anger, disappointment and hurt as well. You cannot expect things to go smoothly every day. It’s not realistic because we are humans and we all have emotions, and baggage and our own opinions.
It’s only natural that you and your partner will clash at one point. What matters is what you do from that point on. Will you let go and try seek more balance some place else? Or will you decide it’s worth staying and fighting alongside your partner?
The only path that will ensure deep love, care, and commitment is to find balance and agreement within the relationship. Especially if you think there is still love between you two.
Accept and embrace the fact that tough times and challenges will always exist. You can choose to walk away and turn your back to a person you might still love. Or you choose to stay and build from there.
Just remember that everything is fleeting. Which means the conflict won’t last forever if both of you are willing to solve it and make amends.
This is how you can continue to grow in your relationships.
Do you agree?