We’re all familiar with the saying ‘opposites attract’. And we have a few examples in pop culture too, like Beauty and the Beast. But is this always the case? Or is it only when we talk about physical attraction? In other words, does this apply to long-term commitments?
Well, according to recent studies on the topic, the answer is no, not necessarily. In fact, the opposite is true.
Science tells us that people tend to look for partners they can settle with who are similar. This means we are more likely to end up with someone who shares the same interests and passions with us. In fact, there’s no greater bond than the one we build with someone like us.
If they also share our political views, religion, family background, education, age and other such characteristics, then all of these add up to the connection we may form. For some education can play a crucial role, while others care a lot about the way the other perceives the world as a whole. It’s true that age is not always a deciding factor, but nonetheless is one that we take into account.
Psychologists believe we may seek like-minded people by default because we tend to be more comfortable with what we already know. So it’s only natural that we become friends or romantic partners with someone like us – we know what to expect. On the other hand, the unknown usually makes us uncomfortable.
This doesn’t mean you and your boo have to think the same and agree on the same things as things could get boring pretty quickly. But having major personality traits in common is probably the easiest way to connect and stay in a fruitful relationship.
Please share if you agree!
