The Toxic Attraction Between An Empath And A Narcissist

What happens when a narcissist and an empath meet and fall in love? Usually, not very pleasant things. But knowing more about this dynamic in a relationship can help us a lot.

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This mix is not an unusual one. In fact, empaths and narcissists interact in romantic relationships all the time. So what makes someone a narcissist? Some theories say it all starts in childhood when someone, most likely a parent, makes the child feel worthless. With a shattered ego, they grow up to be wounded adults who wreak havoc around them.

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Narcissists will therefore try to constantly seek validation to make up for their overly bruised self-esteem.

They will go for anything that gives them an ego boost. Needless to say, they are very “I” oriented people.

On the other hand, the empath is all about the others. They are the healer in this love equation. These people will bond very easily with a narcissist because they always seek to repair damaged people and release their pain.

What the empath fails to realize is that nobody can really be fixed, at least not by someone else. We don’t have control over other people’s emotions or how they deal with them. We may choose to care for them and offer support, but can’t heal their wounds completely.

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This is why the relationship between an empath and a narcissist is a never-ending cycle of giving and taking. And the narcissist usually takes as they feed off the healing powers of the empath. Because they’re always on the look out for validation, they prefer empaths because they give them just that.

Narcissistic people suck the soul out of empaths and the more attention they get, the powerful they become.

In this scenario, empaths will start feeling wounded themselves and focus on their own pain. They will blame themselves, never the other and develop a low self-esteem. Moreover, the narcissist will also make sure they place the responsibility on the other person’s shoulders. And once they see they can’t control the empath, they will look for another victim. After all, they need to keep their ego alive.

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The empath must realize that they are worthy of so much more and that no matter how badly they want to heal somebody’s wounds, they’re not responsible for it.

The sooner you spot these signs, the less likely it is for you to develop a relationship with a narcissist. Keep your heart open and trust that you will bond with someone who is worth it. Please share this!