This is your reminder that you don’t need someone else to complete you. The great fallacy that surrounds us is that we are missing a significant part of ourselves. And that only a true soulmate can fix that. Know, here and now, that you are already whole.
You have within all it takes to live a meaningful and fulfilling life. Of course, not in perfect seclusion, but surrounded by people you care about. Once you spend a while on your own, you will be able to recognize the importance of time spent alone. Because within that frame, you managed to get to know yourself better, you have become more in tune with who you really are.
You have realized that real joy can be found in your strength, in what you love to do the most, your dedication and your independence. You don’t need the people who didn’t stay in your life. You don’t need those who can’t see you for who you are or who misunderstand you. And you surely don’t need anybody who doesn’t value you or respect you.
It’s not always easy to come to terms with these things. And yes, we all want intimacy and affection in our lives. Our emotional universes matter a great deal. But there’s a difference between wanting and needing.
When you need someone, you imagine your life would be so much better if they were in it. But you are not deficient. It’s alright to long for them, but to understand that your life is already how it should be. What you can do is continue to grow, expand your world and pursue whatever makes you happy.
As for love, it does start with self-love. You cannot express genuine love for someone else until you have given it to yourself. The way you treat yourself and talk to yourself will be reflected in any kind of relationship you have. And once you stop chasing people and focus on yourself and your future, you will find not only happiness, but freedom as well as relief.
When we’re depending too much on other people, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment and heartache. It’s true that we also learn from our mistakes, but know when it’s time to put an end to it.
At the end of the day, you only have yourself. It’s where you will always go back to, no matter what happens. That’s why it’s so important that you create a safe and nurturing space for you.