Marriage has lost the appeal it once had. More and more people choose other forms of commitment or they choose not to commit at all. But let’s say you do want to get married. Before you tie the knot, see if the following apply to you, because they are red flags you shouldn’t ignore.
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1. You are not sure your partner is the one with whom you want to spend the rest your life
Doubt is good. It can be a sign of a critical thinking. But when it comes to making a life changing decision such as marriage, you should never doubt the connection between you and your partner. If you are not sure you are really attractive to your partner, you already know the answer. If you doubt your feelings for them or theirs for you, can you see yourself living with this insecurity for the rest of your life? And if you are not sure you are compatible, what you experience may be a strong infatuation, not something upon which you can build a lasting relationship.
2. You feel pressured to marry
Is the only reason why you want to get married the fact that you are pressured into it? Well, that’s not a good reason. You may have to challenge your parents’ authority or even what society tells you. In the end, it’s your life and you should live it as you wish. Don’t get married just because you are of a certain age or your partner really wants it. Marry because is the right choice for you.
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3. You are not looking forward to your wedding day
Planning a wedding is exhausting. It involves a lot of emotional and financial effort. Moreover, like any other life altering choice, it can make you nervous. But if you are overwhelmed by anxiety thinking about your wedding day, this may be your guts telling you are not making the right choice. Your wedding day should be a celebration of your shared love, not something that terrifies you.
To make sure that you’re making the right choice, explore your true feelings and values. Discuss your fears and doubts with your partner and your friends and don’t allow yourself to be carried away. Better safe, than sorry. Please, share this!
