Not even the greatest relationships are immune to arguments and disagreements. On the contrary, one can argue that a certain amount of fights keeps the relationship healthy. But what can we do once the fight is over? How can we get things going again?
1. Take a step back
When we fight, it’s tempting to let our ego get the best of us and start the blaming game. But if we look at the problem from an objective point of view, we can identify the role we’ve played in creating the conflictual situation. Admitting our contribution is the first and most important step to take.
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2. Apologize (sincerely!)
Once we’ve admitted to ourselves that we are equally to blame for what went wrong, admit it to your partner. And then apologize! A sincere apology is the only thing that can melt the hostility and resentment between the two of you.
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3. Forgive
In order to really put the conflict behind you, you need to forgive your partner. If you find it difficult, remember all the times that your own behavior was offensive or hurtful and what reaction you wished the other had. And most importantly, forgiveness can give you peace of mind, leaving you unburden.
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4. Don’t be too hard on yourself
If you practice forgiveness and tolerance towards yourself, it will be easier for you to give others a break. So exercise those forgiving muscles!
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5. Give it time
While it’s understandable to want the issue to be solved as fast as possible, remember that after a major fight you and your partner need time. Don’t pressure your partner to move forward faster than they are ready. Be patient and don’t make unreasonable demands!
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