Sometimes, we do things that could damage our relationship without even realizing it. Here are some dangerous behaviors that you should address before they ruin your romantic future.
1. Making assumptions about your partner’s feelings
Nobody can read minds so don’t even try. When you think that something is off with your partner, just ask them what’s wrong. Don’t assume you already know what they have on their mind and most importantly, don’t act without having relevant information. Otherwise, you’ll make things worse, because your partner will think that you’re not interested in their real feelings.
2. Sharing private information about your partner
It’s only natural to seek advice and input from your friends and family. But if you share private information about your partner and the conflicts that you’re having with them against their will, this will corrode their sense of trust. Discuss openly with your partner and decide together what kind of things can and cannot be shared with other people.
3. Refusing to accept criticism
It’s understandable to want to be accepted as you are, qualities and flaws alike. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t accept constructive criticism from your partner. Your relationship should be the safe space where you can reveal your flaws, but also where you can work on them.
4. Not communicating your negative emotions
Maybe because you don’t want to jeopardize the harmony of your relationship, you keep your negative emotions to yourself. That’s not a great idea. Chances are they will surface at the most inappropriate times. It’s better to deal with them when they appear and then move on.
5. Smothering your partner
It’s great when partners have thing in common and they like to spend a lot of time together. But that doesn’t mean you have to spend every single second together. Giving your partner some space and claiming it for yourself can reenergize the relationship.
6. Not knowing how to fight
When conflict arises, and it will, it’s essential to know how to deal with it. Establishing boundaries, expressing your disagreements in a clear and respectful manner, listening to the other person’s point of view and not trying to manipulate them in any way are key elements to handling the conflict in a productive manner.
7. Never forgetting a mistake
When you are in a healthy relationship, you should be able to forgive and forget. And then just move forward. When you have difficulties in forgiving your partner for a mistake they made, remember to treat them with the same generosity you would like to be treated when you are not at your best.