Unfortunately, more and more couples wind up in divorce. Sometimes you find it hard to believe how two people you’d thought were made for each other choose to end their marriage. In reality, nobody knows what actually happens behind the scenes nor can they predict for sure if a matrimony is heading for disaster.
Science however can help us understand better the dynamics of a marriage as couples share some similarities: in the way they portray their relationship, their employment status, education level or even in the way they fight.
1. Getting married too early or too late
Tying the knot in your teens or after the age of 32 can decrease your chances of having a happy marriage. People who marry in their late 20s and early 30s are more likely not to split up. Moreover, age gap between couples seems to increase divorce risk. According to years of research, the best time to get married is in your late 20s.
2. Showing disdain for your spouse
A 14 year-old study conducted across the US Midwest by John Gottman, the founder of the Gottman Institute and psychologist at the University of Washington, found that there are 4 ingredients that inevitably lead to divorce: contempt, criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling. Taking your spouse for granted and seeing them as beneath you, turning into a victim in tough situations, refusal to communicate, these things only damage your relationship little by little.
3. Being way too fond of your newlywed
Believe it or not, the marriages that have a rough start are more likely to last. Being overly affectionate as newlyweds is a problem because that kind of intensity cannot be maintained.
It might be useful to know these things before walking down the aisle. So please share this article!