Hoping that you are going to meet the right person and instantly know that you want to spend the rest of your life together is a dream many people share. It’s a beautiful dream, but a dream nonetheless. Before taking the big leap of faith known as getting married, you should probably test the durability of your relationship.
Obviously, nobody really knows how to predict if a relationship will last or not. Not for sure, at least. But there are some situations that are relevant when we talk about the ability of a couple to face the good and the bad times. Here are some situations that you should experiment before tying the knot and that will tell you how ready you really are to take things to the next level.
1. Travel together
Traveling can be an enriching experience that teaches you not only things you didn’t know about the world you’re living in, but also about yourself. But the best trips are adventures and in being so, they are unpredictable. When you take a long trip with your partner you get the chance to discover how well they manage this unpredictability, how they react to things going from fun to dangerous, whether they are able to relax and collaborate. All these things and many others will happen in your future life together, so if you can handle them well as a couple, chances are your marriage will work just fine.
Arguments are inevitable in long term relationships. What makes the difference between a toxic relationship and a healthy one is the way the partners are able to manage conflicts and how they treat each other during such a hard time. Being able to communicate your feelings without attacking the other, being sincere and direct, not resorting to tactics of emotional manipulation, being respectful and compassionate are some of the key elements to solving an argument without destroying the relationship.
3. Living together
When a couple moves together everything changes. From two independent people who meet for a while, but then go home to their private life, the partners become, well, real partners. From who cleans the house and pays the bill to tolerating the little annoying things about your partner, moving in together will tell you everything you need to know about building a household together.
4. Talking about sex
Whether the sexual chemistry is there and everything goes perfectly or there are things to be improved in the boudoir, chances are that once you get married things will become more challenging. Keeping the spark alive after many years is not that easy. You need to be able to talk about sex with your partner, to tell them what you need and what is making you uncomfortable. This may not be an easy conversation to have, but it’s better to start it now and enjoy the benefits later.
Making an effort now will increase the chances you won’t be disappointed in the future. Please, share this!