When you have a great relationship and suddenly your partner is starting to pull away from you, it can be very confusing. You start making up awful scenarios in your head and things can only go down the hill from there. Instead of making yourself crazy, here are some things you can try.
Keeping in mind that this can happen with any relationship, no matter how great it may be, try the following things before pulling the plug:
1. Let them be for a while
It may be a hard thing to do, since your insecurities are tugging at you, but sometimes the best thing to do is to do nothing. Just by giving them a bit of space, they might solve whatever problem they have. And they might come back to you with renewed affection.
2. Confront them on the issue
If you gave them space and nothing has changed, then it’s time to confront them. Ask them point blank what’s wrong. Make sure that you are really listening and not appointing blame. If they feel judged, they might not want to talk about what is bothering them.
3. Don’t go into a frenzy of self-doubt
We know it’s tempting, but try not to blame yourself for whatever is happening. Being distant might be your partner’s way of dealing with their problems and it might not have anything to do with you. Chances are you haven’t done anything wrong.
4. Let them know how you feel
If after giving them space and trying to talk about the problem, nothing has changed, then it’s time to tell them how the situation is making you feel. Again, make sure that you are talking about your emotions in a rational manner, explaining clearly how them pulling away is affecting you. Don’t blame them and make them feel worst about whatever they are going through.
5. Don’t spy on them
If you feel that something is off, you might feel tempted to go through their phone and email to see what’s really going on. Don’t! Snooping is a sure way to destroy the trust on which your relationship is built.
So no matter what you do, just don’t add drama to the situation. Communication and empathy can go a long way. React in a such a way you would like the other to react if you were the one going through something you weren’t ready to share yet. Make sure that you’ve done everything that can be done before deciding to pull the plug. Please, share this!