Keeping a romantic relationship healthy is not easy. We may give in to habits that seem harmless enough, but that can in the end ruin a good relationship. Here are 5 of them.
1. Sweeping the problems under the rug
If you are one of those people who hate to argue and do everything in their power to avoid conflict, you may be tempted to not discuss the problems that arise in your relationship. But this is not a good idea. The insignificant problems that could be easily solved may accumulate and can create frustration and resentment. To know how to fight in an effective manner is an essential element of a good relationship.
2. Making fun of your partner
Everyone appreciates a partner with a good sense of humor. But make sure that you use the right kind of humor. There are 2 types of humor: positive humor means making fun of yourself, using inside jokes and emphasizing the ridiculous situation you are in.
Aggressive humor is directed towards the other. It’s about poking fun at their shortcomings and placing yourself on a higher moral ground. So if you are going to risk it, make sure you use the kind of humor directed at the situation or yourself, not the other.
3. Expecting your partner to read your mind
When you give your partner the silent treatment, when you sulk and expect the other to know what’s bothering us without telling them, we are being unfair. Nobody can really read our mind and the best way to make sure that the other understands what’s bothering us is to just tell them.
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4. Creating scenes in public
All emotions are valid and should be expressed. But there’s a time and a place for everything. If you fight in public, if you like creating scenes in the presence of others in order to embarrass and humiliate your partner, things will not get solved, but deteriorate.
5. Rehashing the past
As important as discussing your problems with your partner is, don’t forget that your argument should be about something that happens now, not a mistake made long time ago. This blame game can only damage your relationship, since no good outcome is possible.
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