10 Signs They’re Not The One

6. You overthink things

Soulmates don’t spend a lot of time writing and then deleting text messages, they just hit send and if their message is not clearly understood, they explain themselves in person. When you think a lot about what to write them, that’s a clear sign you can’t be your genuine self.

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7. They don’t put in the work

It’s no secret, relationships are a lot of work. If they don’t make the effort to spend time with your family and friends, if they miss a lot of important events in your life or they do come but they clearly don’t enjoy themselves, they are most definitely not your soulmate. True companions desire to spend quality time with you and get involved in the lives of the people you cherish the most.

8. The future is elusive

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Having no interest for the future of the relationship is a big red flag. It makes no sense to be in a committed relationship if there is no long-term future for you together. Not marriage or children, but at least having the same goals in life is decisive for a relationship to work.

9. You make excuses for them

When you have to explain their actions, why they treated you like that or why they haven’t come to your mom’s birthday party, that’s not really a good scenario for a healthy relationship. You shouldn’t report their behavior.

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10. They don’t seem happy to see you

No matter how hard their day was, they should put a smile on your face. They must enjoy your company at all times, they should always be happy when they see you and bring you joy even when things are difficult.

If you’re not the one for them, don’t waste any more time and energy. Better off completely alone than feeling lonely in a relationship. Share this!