Going back to him after he left you vulnerable and hopeless might not be such a great idea. We understand the temptation to do that, since you missed him so much. As intense and painful as it may be, you need to own your healing process. It’s something no one can take away from you.
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Never forget that they’ve taken you for granted when they left. They’ve abandoned you when you needed them the most. And now you’re here. Remember that:
1. They will hurt you again.
Because they’ve done it once, chances are they’ll do it again. This is why you could never be happy and at peace in a relationship that has already been through a major disappointment.
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Also, you need to be happy with yourself first. You can’t expect them to come along and unbreak you and put you back on your feet. This is something you have to go through alone.
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2. They can’t change.
Your ex may come crawling telling you how much they’ve changed and how they realized you two should be together for life. The truth is people rarely change. You will not be able to trust them like you did before and this will damage the relationship even further.
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3. You deserve more.
Don’t settle for less just because you feel you may never find love again. You deserve people in your life who treat you kindly and who offer support when you need it the most. Enough with the blaming.
As tempting as you may find it to go back to them, know that this will perpetuate their ill treatment of you.
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This will turn out to be a long and complex healing process, but you should know that this will make room for other people in you life. Once you realize you deserve so much more, you will be able to find love again. Please, share this!
