We often realize when we reach adulthood that we got most of the things we don’t like about ourselves from our parents. And we also realize that healing childhood wounds can be very difficult. Learning to let go as adults is never easy, but making peace with our past is probably the best thing we can do for ourselves and our (future) children. The tendency is, of course, to blame the parent for this and that mistake we make in our adult life. Blaming however will never bring the positive change you’re looking for. Here are 5 reasons to forgive your parents for their toxic behavior.
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1. Inner peace
Forgiveness has to come from a deeper place. That’s when the magic happens. Talk to your parents and let them know you’ve made peace with your past together. Forgive them for whatever damage they may have caused you and you’ll feel like a huge weight has been lifted.
2. They mean well
It’s always good to remember that your parents want what’s best for you. Keep that in mind especially when they’re being overprotective or too controlling with you. If you realize they mean no harm, you’ll be able to move past their attitude much sooner.
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3. Better relationships
Forgiving your parents will first of all improve your relationship with them but also with your partner or friends. This simple act will allow you to maintain what you have with your parents without forcing them to take sides for example. Keeping the family united, especially during rough times, is definitely for the best.
4. Be a role model for your kids
Think about this: what example will ignoring or blaming your parents set for your own children? Showing your kids that the ties with your parents are still strong will encourage them to follow your example.
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5. It will make them happy
Probably most importantly, forgiving them will make your parents feel happy and relieved. And this will restore family unity.
Are you dealing with a toxic parent? Choose forgiveness and share this with someone who has family issues!
