Love can be a blessing. It can make you feel immortal. But you are going to be disappointed if you think your present or your future partner is going to be your savior. Here are 4 reasons why you shouldn’t expect your partner to save you from a life you hate.
1. You need to love yourself in order to love somebody else
No matter how much affection and appreciation your partner gives you, you won’t be able to make things work if you don’t respect yourself. Your mental well-being is your own responsibility and you should treat it as such.
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2. You need to learn how to accept a compliment
We are taught that we should always be humble about ourselves and our accomplishments. But that doesn’t mean that you should feed your inner critic or that every compliment your partner gives you is a cruel joke or a lie.
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3. You shouldn’t forget that your partner is not your therapist
A healthy and loving relationship can be the ideal opportunity for you to solve some of your emotional conflicts or past trauma. But this doesn’t mean you should treat your partner as your therapist. Don’t forget you are his partner, not his special project.
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4. You shouldn’t avoid being single
Being single can give you the perfect opportunity to focus on yourself, to work at your own well-being and to become the person you want to become. And if you feel that you are not ready to be in a serious relationship, don’t go into it anyway, hoping that this will solve your problems.
