We all want deep and genuine connections with others, but few know how to build them. Especially when it comes to romantic connections. Here are 4 ways you can do that.
When our emotional needs are not met, it’s easier to complain or to withdraw rather than ask for what we want. And most importantly to work for it.
1. Listen to your own desires
When you get upset by your partner’s behavior, ask yourself why and what do you really want and need. It’s not as easy as you may think, especially if introspection is not your friend or if you tend to lie to yourself.
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2. Don’t be ashamed of your need to connect
Because it puts us in a vulnerable position, we tend to hide or deny our need to connect. But actually, it’s not a weakness, it’s a strength. Studies show that a long and healthy relationship is more beneficial to our well-being than not smoking or not being obese.
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3. Learn how to ask
Confront your fear of asking and do it in a positive, non-condemning or non-entitled way. If your partner loves you, they will be pleased to make you feel loved. If they don’t, at least you’ll know where you stand.
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4. Ask your partner to help you grow
Since good habits are hard to keep, you will probably complain in the future instead of finding a way to connect that is on the same page as your partner’s way. So be brave enough to talk this with your partner and ask him to help you resist the temptation to complain or to withdraw. After all, you’re trying to build something great that will be mutually beneficial. Please, share this!
