What You Need To Know About The No Contact Rule

If you’ve ever been through a breakup and wanted to write your ex after a drink or two to win him back, then this is for you. It’s hard to talk about rules in relationships because when we’re dealing with emotions, we’re usually going to break some rules.

The no contact rule means exactly what it says: after a breakup, you try to stay away from the ‘crime scene’ (so to speak), as much as possible. In theory, it’s perfectly manageable. In practice, well, it takes determination.

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Just to clarify, no contact doesn’t mean not meeting face-to-face; it involves no texting, and no online contact either, whether it’s on Facebook, Twitter, Skype. And it’s also about not stalking them online. This is so easy to do in our day and age. If you can refrain from all these things, you’ve done yourself a huge favor.

It’s very easy to fall into this trap, especially when you see a movie that you were supposed to see together. Or when you read about something you think they would have liked. It can be torture sometimes.

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You might ask: how long do I have to do this?

And the answer is: you decide.

Some women seem to think that the purpose of this rule is to get him back. But the whole point is to help you with your healing process. You get away from the relationship and what hurt you and you shift the focus.

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Once you follow it, this rule will bring you in the right place.

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