Being caught between your partner and your parents is not an easy position to be in. If your parents don’t like your partner, here are some things you can do.
1. Hear them out
Listening to what your parents have to say about your partner will not only make them feel respected and that their opinion matters to you, but it can give you a different perspective on the problem. Only by seeing their point of view you can attempt to solve the problem.
2. Let your partner know
There’s nothing worse for your partner than to go to a family gathering and find themselves cornered by your parents’ antipathy. Let them know that there is a problem, giving them the opportunity to prepare or even refuse to come altogether.
3. Find some common ground
When somebody dislikes another person, they tend to distance themselves, believing they have nothing in common. You can reduce that distance by finding some interests or passions they share. This will make them realize that they are not that different after all.
4. Take your partner’s side
There’s nobody that knows your partner as well as you do. Make your parents see things from your perspective, tell them about the qualities that made you fall in love with them and the way they made your life better.
5. Talk things over
If your parents and your parent are willing, try to convince them to talk about the problem they are facing. Let them know that the position they are putting you in is making you uncomfortable and that you would like nothing more than solving the issue.
Don’t forget that your parents only want the best for you. And in their mind, there will never be anyone good enough for their child. Please, share this!